We have the choice of putting either Negative thought or Positive thought into our head. We have the Choice!


We have the choice of whether to become a Negative person or Positive person. We have the Choice!


We have the choice of choosing Negative friend(s) or Positive friend(s). We have the Choice!


NEGATIVE will tells you:

“You Can’t!”

“You Are Incapable!”

“You Are Stupid and Unattractive!”      


POSITIVE will tells you:

       “You Will, You Can!”

       “You Are the Best and Capable!”

       “You Are Smart and Attractive!”


NEGATIVE will turns everything down and you achieved nothing!


POSITIVE will guild you to the success & happy road!


NEGATIVE is lives in the “Dull and Dark World”.


POSITIVE is lives in the “Colorful and Bright World”.






                 So my friend, the CHOICE is yours.




You can continue to choose living in the Dark & Negative world.

It is your Choice!

Or you can move into the world of COLORFUL & Positive world.

Again, it is your Choice!



The major different between WE (Human Being) compared with other creatures in this world is WE are given a powerful tool called “CHOICE”.

Every human being has the right to make their own decision in life with the exception of few things in life, like:  

BIRTH: We are coming to this world without giving the choice of picking who our parents should be… We don’t have choice!

DEATH: We are on our death bed and soon we will be leaving this world… We don’t have choice!  

But, we have CHOICE in:

Ø      choosing who our friends are

Ø      who our life partner to be with

Ø      which dress to wear

Thurs, the choice is upon our hand.

Making the right choice will grant us to the success and happy road.

Making the wrong choice is not the end of world (provided it not involves death). We must learn how to transform the Wrong Choice to the Right Choice in future. We learn; We progress; We don’t give up in making Choices after multiple failures or mistakes.


Be miserable. Or motivate yourself.

Whatever has to be done, it’s always your CHOICE.

(Wayne Dyer)



I have read a book about “The Three Boxes of Life”. It explained that most people will go through three boxes of life, namely “The World of Education”, “The World of Work”, “The World of Retirement”. It also stated that The World of Education and Retirement have been getting longer and longer. People are delaying their entrance into the “World of Work” until a later and later age, as they pursue more and more Education; and a lot of people are retiring much earlier than they used to.  


Now, looking back at my own life…

I have spent my 20 years devoted to mostly education & learning. I completed by Degree & Master Degree at the age of 34. And almost another 20 plus years dedicated 100% to my work, spending day & night to fulfilled my responsibility as a good employee and be a good example to my fellow-colleagues and subordinates.

Looking at my next 20 and next 20 more years to come… (that if I can live till my 60 years & 80 years of birthday).  It started prompted me a query, “what kind of life journey that I am going to face in coming years?”; “what kind of life that I want to have?”. 


Year 2007 is my departure of my “Work For People life”. I want to escape from this no meaning work and doing something that I always dreamt of. I used to work in IT & Project Management field.  On-going stressful projects one after another, managing challenging subordinates, dealing with demanding bosses, non-stop on-going calls the first step to your office desk, meeting over meeting, beating heavy traffic to work in the morning, staying till mid-night 1 – 2am, and so forth.  I always asking myself, “Is this the life that I want for my next 20 years till my retirement age?”; “What you going to do after your retirement age?” …



Year 2008, my passion and inner-soul search … A year that I told myself that I don’t want my life to end just like that… no friends, no meaning, no passion, no sense of direction, no time for my love one, myself and my family… I took the courage to give myself a total change. First, the change of my mind-set and habits; Second, is the acceptance of big scarify in income. 


It is indeed a challenging year for me. With no monthly income coming in, but plenty of time, and ongoing questioning whether my decision is right or wrong.  The next question came into me is “What you want to do now? You have plenty of time? Do something! Do what? What is my passion? What else can I do besides IT & Project Management”.


Very true… with so much time now and sudden changed of lifestyle. It does makes me felt lost at time. With God helps, I finally decided the path that I want to proceed. It has been in my sub-conscious mind all this time, which I am unable to see it clearly with both my eyes and the courage to accept it.


I have spend so many months doing the outer search, reading books after books, life-changing articles after articles, discussion with all my friends & family. Still the answer is no way can be found.


Till recently, when attended a Sunday mass in church. One of the word that the priest said make my whole world change… he said, if you want the answer to your life purpose, you don’t need to search elsewhere, or go up to mountain over mountain, river over river to search it. The simple answer lies in front of you… PRAY to God. He is always there waiting for you… waiting for you to come to him and let him helps you to unburden your worries, problems and guide you through the path.


It is true, after few weeks of prayers to God… my upcoming path & journey is much clearer to me now.  I no longer struggler and be able to focus more on what coming to me and receiving it with happy and welcoming hand.  I am happy that I managed to escaped from the dark jungle and walking toward the brighter road of my life journey now.


God Bless and Thanks for reading!


Do you have any great life change experience to share here with us?


I have received this beautiful & increable love story from one of my friend. Would like to share this with you.

An incredible love story has come out of China recently and managed to touch the world. It is a story of a man and an older woman who ran off to live and love each other in peace for over half a century.   

      The 70-year-old Chinese man who hand-carved over 6,000 stairs up a mountain for his 80-year-old wife has passed away in the cave which has been the couple’s home for the last 50 years.

Over 50  years ago, Liu Guojiang a 19 year-old boy, fell in love with a 29 year-old widowed  mother named Xu Chaoqin.. 

In a twist worthy of Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, friends and relatives criticized the relationship because of the age difference and the fact that Xu already had children.

At that time, it was unacceptable and immoral for a young man to love an older woman.. To avoid the market gossip and the scorn of their communities, the couple decided to elope and lived in a cave in Jiangjin County in Southern ChongQing Municipality. 

In the beginning, life was harsh as hey had nothing, no electricity or even food.  They had to eat grass and roots they found in the mountain, and Liu made a  kerosene lamp that they used to light up their lives.  

Xu felt that she had tied Liu down and repeatedly asked him, ‘Are you regretful? Liu always replied, ‘As long as we are industrious, life will improve.’

In the second year  of living in the mountain, Liu began and continued for over 50 years, to  hand-carve the steps so that his wife could get down the mountain easily.
Half a century later in 2001, a group of adventurers were  exploring the forest and were surprised to find the elderly couple and the  over 6,000 hand-carved steps.  Liu MingSheng,  one of their seven children said, ‘My parents loved each other so much, they  have lived in seclusion for over 50 years and never been apart a single day.  He hand carved more than 6,000 steps over the years for my mother’s  convenience, although she doesn’t go down the mountain that  much.’



The couple had  lived in peace for over 50 years until last week. Liu, now 72 years, returned  from his daily farm work and collapsed. Xu sat and prayed with her husband as  he passed away in her arms. So in love with Xu, was Liu, that no one was able  to release the grip he had on his wife’s hand even after he had passed away.  



‘You promised me you’ll take care of me, you’ll always be with me until the day I died, now you left before me, how am I going to live without you?’







Xu spent days softly repeating this sentence and touching her husband’s black coffin with tears rolling down her cheeks.

In 2006, their story became one of the top 10 love stories from China , collected by the Chinese Women Weekly. The local government has decided to  preserve the love ladder and the place they lived as a museum, so this love story can live forever. 



My thought:

How many couple in today world willingly to scarify everything for “LOVE”? There are many obstacles & difficulties during the love journey. From the dating to the marriage, till the first born of child to family & relative member from different background… how many can truly conquered all the differentiate till the end?

I have experienced a painful love journey in my life. It always easy says than doing it. You need both party to work hand in hand and working till the happy end.

You have any incredible & real-life love story to share?   

Love, Hate and Fear


Why Love?

Love cannot remain by itself, it has no meaning.

Love brings you joys, happiness, and at time forgetting who you are.

Love makes all things beautiful.



Why Hate?

When Love turned sour, hate conquered love.

When Hate controls love, you lose your mind, and at time forgetting who you are.

Hate makes all things dull and ugly.






Why Fear?

When Hate gone, fear come.

Fear helps one to live in a protective cell, and at time forgetting where you are.

Fear makes all things unattractive.





Robotic Human

I read about this from a book, share with me what is your opinion on this.


The author stated in the book that today human is more like a robotic or machine. They are lazy to step out from their routine, using the same old “formula” of doing thing.

For example:

What you normally see those people approaching you for promoting their products or services. Let says, this girl in the shopping mall, see you step into the shop. Normally, they will wish you “Good day! How may I help you?”; Normally the response they get is “I am fine, thanks” and continues your journey into the shop.

Next, this lady will follow you like “ghost” behind you (“in case you need help”)… You turn left, she turn left. You turn right, she turn right. Ended up, you steps out from the shop without buying anything. Whereas she, didn’t managed to sell you anything.



Since this approach is not workable, why still so many shop assistants using this approach. Guess, this has been programmed into their mind and they just continuous doing it without assessing whether it is a good approach in selling / promoting.   


To conclude:

… to survive in today competitive environment, one need to step our from their “shell” and creates a unique ways of doing thing. If the old approach not workable, then try a new one. Keep experiment till you success.  

All these years, I have never joined any social networking sites. Only for the past 3 to 4 months, I step into this virtual world and discovered there are so many different social networking sites. Initially I thought social networking site is for people to make friends. But after involves deeper, I found that people using this as a marketing & promotion tools. It awesome!!! Guess the marketing world already conquer onto the social networking sites.


The first social networking site I joined is FACEBOOK. I used to play all kind of cool & fun applications with my friends and challenging each others scored.     


 Then one day, during my search. I discovered another social networking site called Yuwie. I can’t believe what I read… this social site paid their member for using the site. Wow… Social Networking site that PAID?  Okay, will try it out to see how true it is. To my surprise, my 1st month earning shown I have $0.19. That awesome!!! I didn’t do much in the 1st month and I got paid by chating with my friends. Wow! Another bonus point to add is that people in yuwie are very friendly, they loves to help each others.

My Yuwie Site: http://ww3.yuwie.com/profile/?id=425306 


Another day again, during my search. I found yet another social networking site called MyVieWin.com. Wow… this one even more amazing. They paid their member $5 when they joined. Cool! The social networking sites are beginning more exciting each day, with so many attractive rewards to attract members. Awesome!!!

MyViwWin.com: http://www.myviewin.com/?idAff=2645


Then, I began to wonder what kind of social networking site that I will be seeing next? To my amaze, my friend introduces me to this “Self-Create networking site”. I can’t believe it!!!  I can create my own social networking site. What an amaze!  

My Ning (Create your own Social Network!):  http://cncool.ning.com/  

See… the evolution of social networking is changing each day. Am ready to see the next changed in social networking…. !!!!Some other social networking reference sites:

The following are all the social networking sites that I discovered: